Good, bad, and the ugly!

People usually have this idea about everything, from everything they use to everybody they see. Mostly, nobody cares about what another person is all about. When we see someone, we tend to form an image of that person based on how we see them, rather than what that person is really about, and this is where all the trouble starts.

We create an idea about those particular people, and when we see some of their behavior doesn’t align with how we imagine them, we immediately start to burst out. You know, the biggest problem is that we all think that our images about those people are the correct ones. Well, we cannot blame ourselves either, because this is how our brain works; we need to make decisions- quick decisions about everything around us- to make survival possible, so I would say that forming images of people we meet is our basic instinct.

If you think this way, sometimes their behavior might not even be wrong, but you tend to think it is wrong because you imagine in a way that the behavior is wrong. It has nothing to do with reality. It is simply your mind making things up; something like this caused a lot of pain for a lot of people, no? We create images of our loved ones, friends, and families, and when that image doesn’t seem to fit the situation, we feel bad, terrible, and even upset.

Well, the good news is that it can be avoided.

Some true friends don’t create images on behalf of themselves; they tend to accept who their friends are, and they seem to do ok and continue to stay ok because none of them created any images of those personalities. Therefore, they were able to stay calm and deal with whatever their friends do. Perhaps this has to do with the mind too. In our social conduct, perhaps love and families take more serious responsibilities; therefore, more of the need for this “image creation”, perhaps which increases the need for dependency too, hence the headache when the image shatters.

If you ask me, I would say, never judge people; you can have images of them, but make sure that doesn’t go so deep that make you think that your image is the right one. You may never know what they do and how they do it, or what is going on in their life.

When you seize the ability to judge others, that’s when you realize you have control over your mind.